The trauma goes a long way, depending on how the case was handled .To some up a few effects of sexual violence survivors ;
Survivor 1 (Name and address withheld to protect them)
The incident happened at age 6 and was committed by a relative, I was never taken to hospital and my mum handled it by telling the relative to relocate and having me taking a shower and promise not to ever talk about it. Am 18 now and I hate being home because I fear it can happen again.
Survivor 2(Name withheld to protect them)
The mum shares how she separate with the father of her first child an 8 year old girl whom the father decided to stay with her, but the uncle to the girl molested her. And now the child leaves in shock and that faints very frequently.
The following survivors names are shared because they are talking about their stories in public places to encourage other to get help.
Was molested by a relative at age of 9,her parents handled the situation by beating the culprit up. For her she never got to counselling, now 40years she is vocal about it and her being a public figure, she share that she is now going for counselling and she is very cautious towards parenting her kids.
Has shared how she was molested at around 8years and the incident was continuous since she was sleeping in the same house with the culprit and on sharing it with her mother ,the mum brushed it off and the molestation continued for several times, she only felt safe at her grandfather’s house. She shares that she never had a relationship with her mum, something which as a mum she has made it her core goal to have a relationship with her kids and also very cautious on who hangs around her kids.
Tabitha Wothaya, now a mum of two share how she has been molested continuously from a young age by her step dad and uncle at continuous intervals, and her mum never took action. She is now living with health complications, she can not hold urine ,since she was never taken to hospital or counselled. She also does not have a relationship with her mum but she wished to have one .She also chose to be a lesbian because her past experience made her hate men and sex in general. Tabitha narrates how the stepdad and uncle took advantage of her by telling her that she doe not belong to their land and that if she tells anyone ,they wont educate her. She now writes a book and is seeking to publish it ,to her this is a way of talking to victims and parents to victims out there.
Seeing how adverse the effects of sexual assault can be to a child ,let us be vigilant and be open for change, report and seek both medical and mental help. Get healed by wounded Healers will walk with you through the process at no cost.